A few weeks ago, my girls’ father took them on a jaunt to New York City. It was the first time they went on vacation without me, and I knew if I stayed home I would wander aimlessly through the house feeling left out, so I decided I would take a trip myself. I settled on a long-wished-for destination, asked some friends if I could come and stay, and started planning.
However, this was also the first time all of us would be out of town at the same time, and none of us could take the dog. A few months ago I thought I found the perfect dog-sitter. She was willing to do it for love, not money, and she took the dog on exhaustingly long walks. When I texted her, however, she told me she was moving that weekend to a no-pet apartment. I wished her luck, and thought, “Now what?”
Now what indeed. Turns out pet-sitting is as expensive than human daycare. I checked Kijiji, did a Google search; every reasonably-priced sitter was booked, and Google listed prices at $40.00/day.
In desperation, I called my vet. She referred me to someone who charged $35.00/day– $105.00 for the whole trip. I didn’t know what to do. On one hand, to say that money is tight right now would be like saying the Depression was a small recession. On the other hand, I knew I had to get out of Dodge.
While dithering in indecision, I had to make a trip to the local mall, where I ran into My Former Neighbour From The Next Block. She is one of the few people in my community who actually likes dogs, so I asked her if she could take Our Best Friend for a few days while I skipped town.
“Can’t,” she said, with true regret. “I’m taking my son to camp that same Sunday.”
“Well,” I said, “unless I come up with an affordable solution, I’m not going anywhere.”
“How much will it be?” she asked.
“It’s anywhere from $30.00-$40.00 a day.”
MFN opened her purse. “You have to go,” she said. “You have to.” She took out $40.00. “Go. One night is on me.” She put the money in my hand.
“No way!” I protested. It’s not like MFN is exactly a millionaire either, although at least she has a job, whereas unemployment has been my status for fourteen years. I shoved the money back in her hand. “You’re crazy! I’m not taking money from you!”
MFN took the $40.00. She did not put it back in her purse. She stuffed it down my shirt. In the middle of a shopping mall frequented by EVERYONE we know. And then she backed away quickly so I couldn’t give the money back.
“You’re going,” she said. “You need to go. Have a good time.”
Well, there was only one thing I could do. I cried all the way home. Ridiculous generosity does that to me.
Our Best Friend went to the sitter, and I went to Ithaca, New York, where I had coffee one morning with the amazing Pamela Douglas Webster from Something Wagging. The dog sitter, GB, had a dog run in the back of his house, and apparently Our Best Friend was on his best behaviour the entire time. In fact, when I took the kids on an overnight trip the following week, OBF had another night there.
I’m still looking for a cheaper sitter, but at least my dog was in good hands. And I got to see, once more, how amazingly blessed I am with the best friends in the world.
This Sunday, many Jews will be fasting for Tisha b’Av, the 9th day of the Hebrew month of Av. This fast commemorates the destruction of the First and Second Temples in Jerusalem, in 586 BCE by Nebuchadnezzar of Babylonia, and 70 CE by the Romans.
The Talmud tells us that the first temple was destroyed for various cardinal sins, such as immorality, but the second temple was destroyed because of “sinat chinam,” or baseless hatred of Jews for their fellow Jews. This post is dedicated to “ahavat chinam,” love for one’s fellow Jews, as exemplified by My Former Neighbour. Indeed, it is dedicated to the kindness we should all show one another to make this world a better place to be.
What a good person that neighbour is. I’m glad you managed to get a break and have coffee with the famous Pamela, no less! Dog kennelling here is ridiculously expensive too, especially for large and giant dogs. Everything costs money. A dollar for feeding them a pill. 5 for 15 minutes of walk. We always plan our breaks around off-peak times. Georgia’s too difficult to leave with friends or neighbours for more than a day 😉
Yeah, I can’t leave my boy with people I dog-sit for; they have a personality clash. 😦
I can’t believe I didn’t get to hear all that at Gimme Coffee! What a great story.
And I’m so glad YBF was on good behavior too. Maybe he needed a vacation as well?
I think I told you to watch for the story on the blog. Took a little too long, but got there eventually.
I should have mentioned your offer to pet-sit should I want to return! And I do. You made my trip special.
How awesome that there is such kindness in this world sometimes. Glad you had a nice trip and the pup was well behaved too. It sure is easier to travel when you know your dog is in good hands.
But harder to travel when you don’t have the extra for sitting fees. 😦
What a wonderful gesture… it’s nice to have a reminder that for all of the bad things we hear about, sometimes people are just kind of awesome. 🙂 I’m glad you were able to get away for a few days – sounds like a lot of fun!
Next time I’m going to stalk YOU for a coffee! I happen to like your part of the world too!
I would not object to that plan at all. 🙂
Bring it on, baby! I’m not afraid!
Totally love your former neighbour. If you would live closer I would have taken your dog. Our puppy loves playmates. xoxox
And Our Best Friend would go mad trying to avoid puppy kisses! But maybe one day we’ll visit you!
Maybe? That’s all I get, is a maybe? Pshaw!
Don’t want to crowd you out of house and home. Although if the dog is no longer using it, one of us can sleep in his crate!
What a lovely story. Hopefully some day you will be in a position to help someone else in a similar way. (I do not just mean the money.)
Well somehow I missed this post, thank goodness for PupFan! What an amazing story and how generous of your FN to help you out. I would have cried too. 🙂
And um…so jealous that you got to spend time with Pamela, she is one of the blogging celebrities that I adore. 🙂
How amazing it is when generosity comes completely out of the blue. What a wonderful, uplifting post. Looking forward to following you.
Thank you so much! I have to go check you out– I’m really a cat person at heart, made a dog owner by circumstance!
What a wonderful story. It’s nice to hear there are still good, kind and thoughtful people in the world. :]
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